The Social Science of Muhammad

The book contains 17 chapters, and each chapter contains good lessons from the life of prophet Muhammad(SAW). Here are my summary of the book for future reference.

Why we should wake up early?

The author changed his daily routine to waking up early morning at 6AM which contributed to finishing his PhD early . Scientifically, “Morning people are healthier and happier”. The best time recommended to waking up early was  4.30am . Prophet Muhammad (may peace be upon him) said, “O Allah, bless my nation in their early mornings (i.e. what they do early in the morning.)”

Why Mindfulness is good ?

Mindfulness is a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique. Mindfulness meditation improves decision making and creativity. Muslim pray five times daily with fullest attention which is a one way of meditating.

Impact of doing things in group

If you desire cooperation among people, get them to do a synchronised activity. This may includes singing, praying and marching. Doing things in a group create emotional bond. This may be the reason we go to Mosque or Church and pray together.

Why we should not Gossip

Avoid gossip, people will like you. Prophet Muhammad (may peace be upon him) said : “Do you know what gheebah (backbiting) is to his companions?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He said, “That you say something about your brother he dislikes.” He was asked, “What if what I say about my brother is true?” He said, “If what you say is true then you have gossiped about him, and if it is not true, then you have slandered him.”[39]  o even if what you say is true, that the person has done something bad, don’t say it behind him.

Why we should smile?

Prophet Muhammad (may peace be upon him) says, “smile is charity. Smilling make us friendly and approachable. So, it is good to smile to your children, and people you met. They will confide in you because you are approachable, else they will confide on others.

How to be trustworthy?

Cuddy, a social psychologist, said that we should yield the floor to the person we are meeting by asking the person questions to let her/him talk. After greeting, Prophet MSW  turned to you completely with full attention and would give you the opportunity to talk, to tell him what you want from him or the question you came to ask . In here book, Cuddy said, ”I think people make the mistake, especially in business settings, of thinking that everything is negotiation. They think, ‘I better get the floor first so that I can be in charge of what happens.’ The problem with this is that you don’t make the other person feel warmth toward you. Warmth is really about making the other person feel understood. They want to know that you understand them. And doing that is incredibly disarming.”

Why mistakes is good in learning?

Science has shown that when a student makes a mistake in learning, he benefits more, because his brain grows. “Mistakes make neurons fire, and the brain grows”,. We should stamp the following words in our classrooms and in our homes. In learning, making mistakes is better than not making mistakes or tell our students when the make mistakes that: “well done, your brain has grown, and you have double reward

Why we should be grateful?

Thanks people for the little they have done to you and try to find one thing for which to thank them. “If you’re grateful, I will surely give you more and more.” Surah Ibrahim, verse 7.[63]. The Prophet said: “He who does not thank the people is not thankful to Allah. Also, if we’re truly grateful, that would be seen in our deeds. If you are grateful for your wealth, you would give Zakat and charity. If you’re grateful for your knowledge, you would share it with others.

Why u should not beat or criticized our children

Beating our children bring violence. American Psychological Association advised parents: “Teach your children that it is better to settle arguments with calm words, not fists, threats or weapons. A better alternative to corporal punishment is withdrawal of privilege. Taking away what a child loves - such as TV time. Studies showed that to change behaviour, to a well behave one, reward is a better tool than punishment. Hans Selye, “As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation. Children love kind parents, this love gives them a strong motivation to obey their parents. In the opposite scenario, if kindness is absent and there is violence and harshness, that will lead to alienation, which in turn will  lead to stubbornness and disobedience, or the prevalence of fear which will generate an attitude of lying and deceitfulness in the child.” Dale Carnegie said from experience: “Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment. Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain—and most fools do,” Carnegie continued, “Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.”

Why we should turn opponent into a friend (Franklin Effects):

The Qur’an mentions that we should return bad with good, “Repel evil by that which is better, and then the one who is hostile to you will become as a devoted friend.” Adam Grant said, the most meaningful way to succeed is to help others succeed. Benjamin Franklin wrote: “He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself has obliged.” In sum, if you ask an opponent for advice and get him to do you a favour, he would be even more willing to do you more favours and more likely to be your friend. This is called Benjamin Franklen effect